I take dreams seriously. That’s why I recently posted “Dream Blockers.” I wanted to see on paper the things that were swirling in my mind, the things I realized could prevent my dreams from becoming reality. In other words, I needed a checklist to work from. What things am I ok on and what things do I need to improve on? One evening while contemplating this, I decided to ask someone I respect for input: I tweeted Bishop T.D. Jakes. I asked, from his experience, what he might add to my list of Dream Blockers. He responded with these five excellent points that I would like to pass to my fellow dreamers.
1. Self-Sabotage- Often we don’t really believe we can achieve, based on past mistakes or experiences.
2. Lack of Exposure- We tend to believe that God can do with us what we have seen him do with others.
3. Fear of Failure or Rejection- No one accomplishes what they are afraid to try.
4. Not Dreaming Within Our Means- Have we assessed properly our God-given skill sets?
5. Procrastination- Dreams take time like childbirth. Wasted time can kill the gestation period of a real dream.
May you have a week of dreaming big and of removing any dream blockers!
A dream becoming reality… I’ll be at the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade in NYC this year!
My favorite paper weight
I spend a lot of time in the dream process—dream creation, dream initiation, dream execution, dream celebration, and dream evaluation. Some dreams never make it past creation. Others fade during execution. But a few make it all the way to celebration. From my time spent in dream evaluation, here are eight things that I’ve concluded can block our dreams from becoming reality.
- Distance- We’ve got to stay close to the Dream Maker Himself! When our lives get crazy busy, it’s easy for the distance between us and God to gradually increase without detection.
- Unpreparedness- I heard someone say recently, “Luck is preparation meeting the moment of opportunity.” Think about your dream. If you got ‘that phone call’ today, would you be ready?
- Hesitation- The moment of opportunity may be just that—a moment. Don’t let fear or doubt cause you to miss it.
- Misalignment- On more than one occasion, I’ve had dreams that were not aligned with God’s plan for my life. Wow, am I glad they didn’t materialize!
- Rigidity- Dreams can’t be set in stone. They must be fluid and flexible. A friend posted on Facebook, “Sometimes you think you see the whole picture and then God opens your eyes even wider!”
- Pride- The Bible says it in four words: God opposes the proud. No dream can break through that opposition!
- Disobedience- We can’t expect success if we have areas in our lives where we knowingly choose to disobey God’s commands.
- Selfish Ambition- Some dreams are for personal gain—fame, wealth, power. But what if we stepped beyond ourselves? What if we had dreams that could help another person or thousands of people or could touch the world in some positive way? Those are the kinds of dreams that God likes to make happen.
What is your most extravagant dream?
(If you would like to dream further, check out these Bible verses that inspired this post: 2 Kings 18:5-7, Psalm 37:4, Proverbs 19:21, Philippians 2:3, and James 4:6.)
Those of us who were BORN TO FLY occasionally get shot out of the sky. We’re soaring along with pure motives and no agenda. We’re working hard and giving our very best. We’re loving what we’re doing because it’s our passion and our gifting. Then suddenly, from out of nowhere, we’re hit. We’re falling. We’re crashing to the ground.
When we regain the breath that was knocked out of us, we try to reorganize our scattered thoughts. We assess our injuries; they are critical. What do we do now? Laying on the ground isn’t an option. We must fly again. But how will we ever navigate the great ascent from the ground to the sky?
From an experienced flyer and crasher, here are some suggestions.
- Remove yourself from the source of the hit. I moved four hundred miles away.
- Rest, physically and mentally. I let myself take naps. Imagine that!
- Heal, physically and mentally. I developed a real physical issue from a non-physical hit. When I removed myself from the source of the hit, my physical issue healed.
- Ask God to restore whatever you lost in the crash. The biggest thing I lost was my passion for life. Life was no fun without passion!
- Seek counsel and inspiration from wise people. I DVR’d T.D. Jakes and I asked moviepastor.com lots of questions.
- Immerse yourself in family and friends who love you. There’s a song that says, “You find out who your friends are.” That proved to be a true statement.
- Keep going through the motions. I was only off from work one week. I don’t think anyone knew I was hurting except those closest to me.
- Plan a big adventure. I had always wanted to go to New England so… I went twice!
- Explore a new niche. After twenty years as a Children’s Pastor, it was refreshing and energizing to do something new.
- Reset your goals. After the hit, none of my goals applied anymore. I trashed them and started over.
It will take time. Weeks, months, maybe even years. But we will fly again. And getting shot out of the sky will only make us soar higher. After all, we were BORN TO FLY!
Where are you in the process?
- Ascending again
- Soaring higher